Month / April 2020

by letstalkabout”it”

Coronavirus Needs To Cleanse Us

This is a disaster, right? Yes, right. But also, stop. We have an opportunity here to rise from a disaster to create a new norm.

We can rebuild from this in a way we didn’t now we were needing to rebuild. We can look inside ourselves and learn what we didn’t know we were needing to learn. We can arise out of this in a glorious way we didn’t know we were needing to rise.

We can spend our time in valuable ways that will bring new meaning to our lives after we exit this. We can:

  • Reflect. Take account of our life, of our relationships, of the state of the world, of who we are and how we are and why we are. Evaluate our purpose and how we feel, re-ground in our body and in our intentions.
  • Create New Habits. Take on habits that can create meaning in the here and now for us, but that can also be implemented in our life when we get out of this. For example, we can to a brief five minute meditation everyday or invest in learning an applicable skill that will help us and also perhaps help others. We can learn how to cook healthy dishes or hone that home workout routine.
  • Heal Wounds. Time heals wounds, but wisdom can assist that healing. We can take this time to learn about our self healing journey through accessible books, courses and podcasts online. We can use this time to seek help and to be truthful with where our well-being is at, where we would like it to be and what we can do to get there.
  • Research the Possible. What have you been missing in your life that you have told yourself you can’t have? What have you become passive to and what have you blamed that state of passivity on? Now is the time to invest in new opportunities and research how you can go about achieving what you want. Do a deep dive on the internet or talk to people you wouldn’t have otherwise talked to. Now is the time to research the possible.
  • Pursue New Starts. In the pause we can use excess time on our hands to pursue that which we have put on hold again and again and again. Or, we can use our research to pursue an option we didn’t know was available. This time can spring opportunities that we didn’t even know we had the option to pursue.

This list can be complemented by your own exploration. If we use this time in a meaningful way we can rise out of this disaster stronger, smarter and more resilient.

Please drop me a line with any of your own inventive solutions during this time. How are you investing in yourself and your future? 

Stay safe and prosper.

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Speaking Your Feelings to Relative Strangers

You want to be your true authentic self. You fight to be true to you every second of every day, and to those that tell you not to – well, pardon my French, but f**k them. Right?

Okay, sure. I get you. I’ve been there over and over again myself. And yeah, it can feel good to tell someone off like you are some King Kong yourself standing your ground banging your chest. But, after the rise, what is the fall? What do you suffer? Did it really help you?

So when it comes to telling off people you don’t know intimately here are some questions I’d try asking yourself first. When you’ve asked these questions take a step back and re-evaluate them later before deciding to take it to that person.

Questions:

1. What do I achieve from saying this? What do I tangibly get by saying something to them versus going within myself and dealing with what the turmoil is?

2. How well do I know this person and how they might respond? How could the spectrum of possible responses effect me?

3. Who is this person to me? Beyond human nature, is there a reason their response or validation is important to me? Why am I putting so much of my energy on this interchange?

4. Why did this happen? What did it spark in me and why might it have sparked that in me? Might I be reading into the situation?

5. How might I feel about the situation if I focused my energy on something else for just a few hours?

6. Has this happened before? Many times? With other people? Other relative strangers? What happened in those situations? What was the outcome?

If you answer these questions and come to the decision to say something then the next set of questions would be: if I’m going to say it, how am I going to say it? How can I hedge my bets to achieve results versus damage?

If you’ve been in this situation before, let me know. I’d love to hear how you handled it and what your outcome was.

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Letting Something Go and Moving On

Tips to Let Go and Move On

Letting go and moving on are not easy things to do. We have to create new habits that will allow us to move on, while also being honest and compassionate with ourselves. Habits take form though actions repeated over time, to create habits we must be focused and committed. Creating meaningful habits that grant you compassion can make all the difference in moving on. Here are three habits to cultivate when you are working to let go and move on.

1. Don’t Judge Your Past Failures

Judging your past failures excessively will keep you in those past failures. You can become so close to them and prevent yourself from taking a step back and recognizing the continuum of time. It is never too late to take a step back, reassess, and decide to make an actionable change. When you find yourself thinking about past shortcomings take a moment to realize what’s happening and take a step back from judging past failures.

2. Realize the Power of Every Choice

To the best of your ability stay present with your actions and realize that every choice you make will lead to a result. Make sure your actions are aligned with your values. If you would want to show someone else compassion, are you showing yourself that same compassion? If you are starting to waver on self-care through one choice, how might that build to another and another choice? One decision is a part of leading to the direction of all others, so try your best to stay present and take accountability for all of your choices.

3. Be Honest With Your Heart

Why have you chosen to move forward? Come into contact with your heart. Don’t bully it. Listen to it. Be truthful with whatever is there. If there is nothing there that is information too. Again, don’t bully your heart. Show yourself compassion. Getting in touch with why you have chosen what you have will help you reattach to your purpose and ground you in your actions.

Conclusion

These are three tools I’ve found helpful when faced with the task of moving on. Most importantly all three tips ask you to show yourself self-compassion. This is absolutely vital and something I personally leave out of the equation way too often. I hope these tips will help you the next time you are trying to move on from something of meaning to you.

If you have any thoughts or suggestions I’d love to hear via replying below. Thanks for reading and take good care of yourselves.